R.S.V.P. is a phrase that we often see on invitations. It is typically listed along with the what, the when, the where and has just as much purpose. It is not put there by the host to make the invitation look fancy or to add a French flare, but because a response is necessary and expected. Yes, French. R.S.V.P. stands for the French phrase 'Répondez s'il vous plait.' In translation this means ‘Respond, please.’ Sounds simple enough, right? Apparently that's where I am wrong.
I have noticed that so many people are developing a nasty and lazy habit of not responding, although the individual requesting the honor of your presence has listed this on the invitation itself. To me, this seems very rude and self destructing.
In the beginning stages of coordinating an event, whether it is one’s big day or a small just-because gathering, a guest list is compiled and shortly after that invitations are sent. Whether an invitation is sent electronically or the old fashioned way a guest should feel flattered and honored to be in receipt of this festive message. If an R.S.V.P is requested this should be taken seriously, just like the creation of the guest list, invitations and event itself has been taken by the host. Furthermore, once the calendar is checked and an educated decision whether to attend or decline is made I hope you will do so in a timely fashion as well as stick to it. We are all adults, therefore if you accept please make the necessary arrangements to be sure you make an appearance as promised. There is no excuse short of a detrimental occurrence or catastrophe that makes it acceptable to forfeit your R.S.V.P.
Do not brush off your lack of an R.S.V.P, or the fact that you forfeited your acceptance, as something that no-one will notice because this is never the case. I have coordinated dozens of weddings, numerous birthdays parties, as well as uncountable other miscellaneous events and it is always unfathomable to me as to why this dark cloud of delinquency seems to show itself at most events. It is really a shame that people have let themselves get so inconsiderate when it comes to such a small and simple act of kindness to another individual that thinks highly enough of them to invite them to their special gathering.
Moral of the story is that you are responsible for yourself and your actions. Please be a responsible and accountable guest. It is common courtesy. Please R.S.V.P when it is requested.